The Death of Friendships, How Men and Women Differ

So this post is something that I've been thinking about writing for quite some time and finally decided to write about it.

Men and women are different. Everyone knows this. I won't go too far into any details of all the things that make them different, but how our friendships end is a hugely different.

First, men. Men easily accept that friendships are going to come and go. Someone stops replying to your emails, or rarely gives you a call, you figure out that they don't enjoy your company as they used to. You move on and spend your time with people who email you regularly, who give you a call when they don't have to, and don't think too much about the former friend. When things are over, things are over. If we see our former friends, we're cordial and polite. We don't grasp at straws and try to "relive the glory days". If we do happen to hang out, we don't hold grudges, we forget the old battles, and just have a good time. BUT AT NO TIME do we EVER think that things are going to be back to the way they once were.

I've always had lots of female friends and in that time I've seen many of their close friendships end. It is FAR from a pretty sight. And I'll admit that I have not helped matters. Women fight for their friendships to the bitter end. They never know when to let things go, miss all the signs that things are turning south, and then always try to return to the "good old days".

Over and over again, it seemed that their friends got incredibly jealous over incredibly stupid things. Perfectly rational women would become hysterical morons! They'd get upset that she spent time with a boyfriend/husband, or her family, or other friends. Over an extended period of time they would miss the signs that they were sending her, misinterpret the signs she was sending them. Almost always they would take the easy way out of turning their former friend into an enemy, INSTEAD of just letting things end amicably. Thus poisoning all memories of the good times with those people. And I need to repeat one thing. This is not just one or two instances. Every woman I've come into contact with has had to deal with this sort of fucked up situation. I sure hope that it's not my fault, but I think its bigger than just one asshole.

I don't know why women have the problems with friendships that men don't. Maybe we're colder. But I'd rather be a cold and happy individual than a warm and miserable person. I am not advocating NOT fighting for a friendship. But I am recommending that people spend more time in their daily lives evaluating the signs in their relationships. People need to be honest with themselves about the conditions of their friendships, whether they want to continue friendships with people or not. It will save us all a lot of headaches!